Imagine digging a hole, then more you dig the deeper the hole gets, as you continue to dig the soil you are removing falls back in, filling the hole and covering you in dirt.
What automatically comes to mind?
If you continue to dig surely you will end up burying yourself, right.
It is often said people lie when they find themselves in a spot of trouble or that they have dug themselves into a hole. The question that springs to mind is if you have dug yourself into a hole and are facing difficulty getting out why would you keep on digging?
Could the truth of who you really are or something that you have done be so bad that you feel the need to lie about it? If no one asks questions or inquires about the situation that you are deceiving people with, why pass on the untruth of it?
Sometimes as adults we tend to look in horror as our little people decide to hide the truth. Admit it, we hate when a child tell lies ! We may even ask
“Why are you telling lies ?”
What baffles me is if we hate lies so much, why would you encourage a child to lie to help you out of a rut? Admit it, you have done it at some point in your life or had it done to you. I know I have. Everyone has told a “little white lie” to possibly cover their tracks or get out of an engagement.
“Tell Mr So and So I am not at home!”
Or
“Let’s not tell So and So that we went to So and So okay?”
Does it sound familiar?
They are still lies you agree, right?
No matter how you polish them up, it simply is not true.
People often blatantly lie when they believe that no questions will be asked of the situation they are lying about. Lying about something or someone possibly means that they are not happy with who they are and they fabricate things about themselves or even other people, be it good or bad, to paint over their reality. Maybe they think that by making another person look bad that they will be seen in a better light. To me something is obviously wrong with their perception of them self because they do not know how to accept their truth.
It’s a fact of life that we all have flaws and make mistakes. Perhaps we even have a few secrets lurking in some deep dark cupboard that we keep sealed. After all no one was created perfect but constant fabrication to hide your truth is not what I would consider the best way to build genuine friendships. Accepting your mistakes and finding a way to move forward is how you can succeed at finding your truth.
I have seen first hand how deception and lies enacted over a period of time, often move ahead of becoming second nature. Eventually they become embedded into an individual’s personality. They may have lived in such unrealistic terms that their lies become their truth in any given situation. They have succeeded in embellishing their persona to the extent that they could not actually live their life any other way.
Imagine acting out the same movie for the rest of your life with no end in sight. It already sounds like a drag to me.
No doubt people love fairytales, no matter what their age. Fairytales are filled with fantasy, they are make believe and they also have happy endings, so why wouldn’t they be enjoyed ? I believe that fairytales were created as a form of escapism, to lighten the loads and reality of the world that we live in. In the mix of it all, some people seem to bring their fairytales to life by painting a prettier picture of themselves or their situation or to cover up a wrong they have done.
Try closing your eyes for few moments and imagine that you are flying like a bird, soaring across blue skies, piecing white clouds as you fly higher into the sky. Enjoy that thought for a few moments, then slowly open your eyes. Now look around you.
Where are you?
Are you not exactly where you stood before closing your eyes?
Perhaps a little unsteady on your feet but you never actually took flight did you?
That moment you imagined you were flying was merely a fantasy, a day dream! Life soon brought you back to reality because life is not fabricated. The things and the people that surround you are as real as the ground that you stand upon. You cannot close your eyes and hope that they would appear or disappear.
My point is that we cannot hide our truth no matter how hard we try or how many lies we tell.
Have you ever heard a person state how beautiful a person is ? In making such a statement do they really know what true beauty is?
Let us make a mental picture of a beautiful woman and visualise her in all of her beauty.
What do you see?
Maybe you see perfectly almond shaped eyes with the bluest hues, long eyelashes, flowing hair, a flawless fair complexion or lightly tanned skin and the perfect size zero figure or maybe you see a fuller figured woman with curves in all the right places.
It is all about our own perception or idea of beauty. When we think of a person we often have to take into consideration that some people decide to live in a fairytale world of half-truths, deception and exaggeration making themselves out to be what they are not.
Hence the famous saying
“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”
It is a fact that people often live a lie to make themselves appear more beautiful in the sight of others. As the beholder we can easily be deceived by the likes of coloured contact lenses, plastic surgery, makeup, hair extensions, eye lashes and even chemically straightened hair!
All of the above is an illusion!
A lie!!!!
When you remove all of the above, the truth stands before you, it is laid bare.
Each persons perception of beauty may be different but when I personally speak of beauty I speak of the inner self, the soul, the spirit of a person. That to me is beauty , not their outward appearance. It does not matter how outwardly beautiful a person is considered to be, I would not be enamoured of them just because they have a pretty face or what is considered the perfect figure. I would rather a person cry to me with a snotty nose and vomit all their deemed ugly truth all over my floor than stand in a bubble of fake beauty. Being beautiful and being considered attractive are far more different than some people actually realise. We can all give off an air of a certain type of personality but a person’s heart speaks volumes. Your heart is who you are and people are drawn to your spirit. If your spirit is unclean it eventually comes to the fore no matter how outwardly beautiful you are.
Like new, is not as good as something new, it is still what it always was, old. Old furniture can be hidden under sheets but eventually when the sheets are removed the old furniture is what remains. Repainting over the walls of your life will not cover up the cracks, once the paint dries, all the cracks will still show through. It is the very same thing with telling lies, you can paint over the truth but eventually the cracks of lies will show through revealing reality.
When we embellish our lives with lies there comes a point when our long-lost friend known as Karma comes and taps upon our shoulder. If you choose to ignore that annoying tap, Karma may choose to slap you hard across the face, to wake you up to who you truly are, in front of the same audience that you encapsulated so well with your lies and deception.
So beware.
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Ucalison
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